There is ALWAYS a "high desire" partner and a "low desire" partner in ANY relationship.

Desire discrepancy in a long-term relationship is the norm, not the exception.

Nothing to fix here.

Nevertheless, this dynamic sucks.

It creates a lot of insecurity, stress and uncertainty in a relationship.

Thankfully, there is A LOT that you can do to minimize the desire  gap, and make your experience with sex fun and pleasurable. 

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Spontaneity is overrated and inaccurate.

At the beginning of your relationship, when your sexual desire was higher, you knew sex would happen.

Sex was always planned. 

 Back then, you spent time and energy preparing for it. You showered, you groomed, you put perfume on, and you wore your "nice" underwear.

It just didn't feel like much work.

What are the chances that if you start doing some of these things again, you will feel more sexual desire?

If you believe that intercourse is the "right" or the "best" way to have sex, you are most likely stopping yourself from having more of it. 

If every time you wanted a little snack it meant that you had to cook a five-course meal, you would probably keep that fridge door closed and choose to go to bed hungry instead.

Likewise, even if you want to connect with your partner, you might unconsciously keep your "door" closed when you are not up for an hour-long sexual encounter.

Intercourse is NOT the "best" or the "right" way to have sex.

Not for most women.